There are many aspects of a wedding that could be considered scary if not terrifying and these don’t necessarily just apply to the bride and groom. For many friends and family for instance the prospect of giving speeches is one that will haunt them in the build-up to be big day and that they will dread getting wrong, as well as being something that does involve a lot to go wrong.
Whether you’re the groom then, the best man, or the Father of the bride, then you might be finding yourself nervous leading up to the wedding, but fear not! With the right advice and some prep work there’s little that can go wrong here, so read on to find out how to avoid a calamity.
Setting the Tone
First of all you need to know what kind of tone to aim for with your speech though this is something many people struggle with. On the one hand of course you want your speech to be funny and often this will involve embarrassing the bride or groom, but at the same time you also need it to come across as sentimental and touching. All this without coming off as offensive or schmaltzy. The solution then is to come up with U/PG rated jokes that involve the couple, but to make sure these are the affectionate kind of jokes that show how much you know them and care – and then make sure you end up with something heartfelt. Consider as well your audience and read the speech through a number of times in your head imagining how their gran, friends, and mother would react to each bit. Take out anything that makes you wince when doing so.
Looking the Part
When you stand up to talk all eyes are going to be on you as will the lens of your wedding photographers. Make sure then that you look the part and this will help your speech to go down better. Before your talk go and spruce yourself up and make sure you look and feel confident.
To deliver your speech you want to make sure you engage the whole audience, that you use the space you have, and that you keep it flexible and lose. Use cue cards perhaps but don’t read from a script, and try to react to your audience and see what is going down better. By doing this it will be more like a conversation than a sermon and you will come off as more charismatic and friendly as a result.
Another tip when delivering your speech is to talk more slowly and this way you’ll find you seem more confident and intelligent and you’ll be more clear at the same time.
If you’re a nervous type there is no getting out of this particular bit of public performance. To combat nerves though and to make your talk more engaging one great trick the best man or Father can use is to bring in a projector and play a slide show while talking. This way you take some focus off of you, and you can get laughs without even having to say anything.
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